Most people’s first reaction to such a disappointment is sadness and anger. Sometimes the anger remains and turns into resentment. And then resentment becomes a substitute for grief and for having realized that things are over…Read More
Seeing a loved one suffer is very difficult to bear. And as you have already realized, nothing you do or say seems to help. Often even the opposite of what we intend happens…Read More
You could express your thoughts like this, for example, “Honey, I’ve noticed lately that you’re very quiet and you’re barely talking to me. I also feel like you’re showing less interest in intimacy and that you’re withdrawing from me.” As a next step, tell your partner how that makes you feel. You might say: “I’m worried because I don’t know the reason for this change. I’m wondering if I did something wrong or if I hurt you. I’m not sure if you’re okay, which bothers me.” Next, you can express what you wish for: “I wish we would talk about this openly. If there is something bothering you, please tell me. And if I hurt you in any way, know that I’m ready to work on it. I want things between us to be good and I want you to be fine.”Read More
What do I do when I don't feel like I am enough? That is a wonderful question because it affects so many of us! The first thing I want to tell you to give you some comfort is: you are not alone with this! Many people feel that they are not enough. But wait a second, what does this actually mean?Read More
‘‘Any tips for getting through a terrible divorce? I’ve found myself staying in bed most days, moping around, but I want to get over this.’’ Dear person this sounds like you’re going through a difficult time in your life right now. Even without knowing any details about your situation and your circumstances, there is one thing that is obvious to me: you are about to lose someone whom you really loved for a long time.Read More
Lisa is a certified life coach and counselor with a passion for art and design. She grew up in Austria but also experienced living abroad in Madrid, Spain, for a year during her studies. She graduated from the Technical University of Vienna and the University of Applied Life Sciences with a master’s degree and worked as an engineer and building certifier for several years. Afterwards she got a diploma in life coaching at the ARGE Bildungsmanagement of the Sigmund Freund University, which led to a major career change.Read More
Bullying is a common occurrence in the work arena and a risk factor for anxiety, depression and suicide. I will mention one definition of bullying behavior for better understanding: a persistent pattern of mistreatment, abuse or humiliation from others in the workplace that causes either physical or emotional harm.Read More
Vienna-based marriage and family therapist Helen Rudinsky looks at how to recognize if you're in denial, and what to do to break out of it.
Are you lying to yourself? Probably. Most of us do. Denial is the most common way we lie to ourselves. We are in denial when we refuse to accept reality, pretending that a painful event, thought, or feeling doesn't exist.Read More
Can You Really Do It? Giving Up Your Career to Move Overseas?
I'm having a hard time processing the reality of having given up my career in the UK to move overseas to Vienna for my husband and his career.
When one partner has to give up his or her career in order to move overseas, this can become a huge source of resentment and conflict in the marriage. The problem is especially hard for dual career couples. Below is some of the advice she gives couplesRead More
U!Shine Vienna is happy to announce April's Professional of the Month - Mrs. Helen Rudinsky, an Expat Counselor based in Vienna. Her motto is: "Your Passport to Harmony while Globally Mobile"
Helen is an American Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor. She has a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, and a Masters Degree in Intercultural Studies.Read More
It sounds like you are going through some tough times at the moment. And while not everyone has to go through a heartbreaking scenario of leaving the country they set up their roots in and love, know that anyone would be struggling with a situation like that. It's simply a painful thing to do.Read More