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How to Deal with Rejection in a Friendship

I want to give you five simple principles for creating good interpersonal relationships. I assume, however, there might be some other underlying reasons why you’re trying to be friends with the “wrong people”. So I hope you’ll see what I’m going to share with you and I hope you will gain valuable insight and useful tips. I would definitely love to hear from you via U!Shine again!

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Relationship Support: How to Gain More Affection in a Relationship

You could express your thoughts like this, for example, “Honey, I’ve noticed lately that you’re very quiet and you’re barely talking to me. I also feel like you’re showing less interest in intimacy and that you’re withdrawing from me.” As a next step, tell your partner how that makes you feel. You might say: “I’m worried because I don’t know the reason for this change. I’m wondering if I did something wrong or if I hurt you. I’m not sure if you’re okay, which bothers me.” Next, you can express what you wish for: “I wish we would talk about this openly. If there is something bothering you, please tell me. And if I hurt you in any way, know that I’m ready to work on it. I want things between us to be good and I want you to be fine.”

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Lisa Kögler: Life Coach

Lisa is a certified life coach and counselor with a passion for art and design. She grew up in Austria but also experienced living abroad in Madrid, Spain, for a year during her studies. She graduated from the Technical University of Vienna and the University of Applied Life Sciences with a master’s degree and worked as an engineer and building certifier for several years. Afterwards she got a diploma in life coaching at the ARGE Bildungsmanagement of the Sigmund Freund University, which led to a major career change.

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One Simple Activity to Improve Your Life

Use every possibility to raise your body, stand up or simply walk. Slowly everybody is realising that sitting for an extended period is unhealthy and linked with obesity, type 2 diabetes, and an increased risk of death from heart disease and cancer.

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What can I do if I get bullied at work?

Bullying is a common occurrence in the work arena and a risk factor for anxiety, depression and suicide. I will mention one definition of bullying behavior for better understanding: a persistent pattern of mistreatment, abuse or humiliation from others in the workplace that causes either physical or emotional harm.

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Dr. Andreas Fida-Taumer: Health & Clinical Psychologist

I am a psychologist working in a psychological counselling service of the public administration of Vienna. Our mission is to help employees and employers who are confronted with conflicts, bullying or discrimination at work. We support to find a constructive solution by individual counselling or by mediating between conflict partners. My colleagues and me perform sensibility workshops for prevention and a better working climate.

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Why Denial is Your Worst Enemy

Vienna-based marriage and family therapist Helen Rudinsky looks at how to recognize if you're in denial, and what to do to break out of it.

Are you lying to yourself? Probably. Most of us do. Denial is the most common way we lie to ourselves. We are in denial when we refuse to accept reality, pretending that a painful event, thought, or feeling doesn't exist.

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Becoming a Trailing Spouse

Can You Really Do It? Giving Up Your Career to Move Overseas?

I'm having a hard time processing the reality of having given up my career in the UK to move overseas to Vienna for my husband and his career.

When one partner has to give up his or her career in order to move overseas, this can become a huge source of resentment and conflict in the marriage. The problem is especially hard for dual career couples. Below is some of the advice she gives couples

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How to Avoid Saying Things you will Later Regret

I ended up getting into an argument with my spouse that escalated out of control! I said some things I regret and I don’t know how to patch our relationship up.

Unfortunately, this happens all the time in relationships. When two people negatively respond back and forth to each other, continually upping the ante while the conversation gets more and more hostile, escalation has occurred.

The most harmful thing about escalation is that in the heat of the moment you tend to say things that threaten the well being of the relationship, statements you cannot take back. “You're so selfish, you're just like your dad” or “You can't ever do it right” or “I wish I never married you.”

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Perspective on The Expat Dilemma : Loneliness

Question: How do I deal with loneliness while living in Vienna?

Living overseas can be exciting! Being an expatriate can be fun! Seeing new places, trying exotic foods, learning different customs, and sending photos of you standing at famous sites to envious friends back home.... But the life of an expat is not all glamour; you can feel very lonely being away from the support of family and friends.

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